“Come on, people. Every time I go to the supermarket, there’s a new tabloid cover with some knocked-up teenage girl and her crazy personal life with some bewildered 16-year-old boy who doesn’t know a baby from a video game controller. Is this really what we find interesting? Who are these girls? Why are they allowed to be exploited like this? Are we that desperate for new celebrities we make them out of being peeping Toms into the lives of sad people? We really want young kids to think this is how you get famous? Ugh.”
We tend to focus on looking for love, hoping for love, and waiting for love. Yet if we look to others to meet that basic need then we’ll always be empty and unfulfilled.
That is, for others to love us in a healthy way, we must first be able to nurture ourselves … and to love and honour who we truly are. The steps below can help you work towards this goal.
1. Decide to treat others with love and respect: As you seek to bring joy into others’ lives you’ll find that they repay you with kindness and love.
2. Practice random acts of kindness: “Play it forward” by doing random thoughtful things. That will turn you into someone you respect yourself – and you’ll also find that others are more generous to you.
I’m not exactly Christian or affiliated with any religious grouping. Yet, I can openly say Christmas is my favorite holiday right before Halloween. It commemorates peace, jolliness, pine scent, and pretty lights. The holiday season brings back the superlative Starbucks drinks like the Gingerbread Latte or the Caramel Brulee. I get to enjoy that cup of coffee in the city that celebrates Christmas like no other place in America: New York.
To pass on the spirit of Christmas to my proud to be Jewish boyfriend, I’m heading out to 34th st. to take a glimpse of the Macy’s Department Store window display and feel inspired.
Merry Christmas! -K